You’ve got love (and it’s driving you crazy)

You’ve got love
(and it’s driving you crazy)

Welcome to a relationship. I can almost guarantee that the people you’ve attracted into your life are the people best equipped to push all of your buttons. It’s designed that way. Sounds pretty sucky at first, but I believe that there are aspects of our personalities that can only be developed when we’re in a relationship. If you’re open to this type of growth, your people can show you where you have some work to do.

You spot it; you’ve got it. People are mirroring back to us what we are putting out. What annoys you about your partner/sister/friend is likely an underdeveloped aspect of yourself. If your best friend is unreliable, consider where you are being unreliable in the relationship. If your partner is impatient, how might you be more patient? Shifting your behavior is an invitation for the other person to shift too. When I started doing this, my husband asked me if I was on a new medication…in a good way.

Anytime we want someone to be different, we suffer. That’s a pretty bold statement so I’d expect you to take a closer look. My husband is a workaholic and I wished he’d spend more time with me. Nothing wrong with that, right? I used to resent that he didn’t feel the same way. When I really examined my hurt feelings, I realized that I didn’t want him to come home early from work unless he honestly wanted to. Forced connection isn’t going to turn out well. It’s his life and I want him to spend his time doing exactly what he wants to do. And the truth is that I don’t want him to be with me unless he truly desires it.

Has someone ever tried to convince you to do something you don’t want to do? I bet it felt like crap. You can still ask for what you want. The challenge is being okay with the answer you get. Wanting others to change so that we feel better isn’t love. See if letting go creates room for other people to show up as their true selves. That’s where genuine and meaningful connection is most possible.

For more tips on staying sane, check out Let Go Or Be Dragged.

Wendy Kranz is a sharp, warm, enthusiastic, truly gifted life coach. Her style is extremely supportive; if you’re in the middle of a complicated life change or want to push yourself to unprecedented levels, Wendy will yank you up and hold onto you while you get your bearings. She’s the perfect coach for someone who wants five-star treatment. Hire her as a treat for yourself.
~Martha Beck, Life Coach, Author + Speaker
Wendy’s coaching is always thoughtful and actionable. I have never met someone who possesses all of these characteristics and still has the ability to create an environment of safety and warmth for the people she works with.
~John Yamin, Chief Executive Officer
I bellied up to the Damn Thirsty bar over five years ago and have never looked back. The playful, wise, bold coaching of Wendy Kranz knocked down the thoughts that were holding me back and allowed me to pursue a more adventurous, joyful life. For that reason, Wendy will always be my go-to coach.
~Tracy Carrothers
Do you know why I love Wendy Kranz? Because not only is she a powerfully effective coach, but she is also hilariously funny and refreshingly honest. I hate hanging up the phone when our session ends and coo in delight when I get an email from her. There's a lot more I could say, but in truth—I only get coached by the best and I am proud to call Wendy my coach.
~Jessica Steward, Master Certified Life Coach & Chief Mischief Maker, Steward Coaching
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~Tom Hebner, Vice President of Operations
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~Kristin
Wendy Kranz helped me to change my life. I was stuck in a misery loop and had no idea how to get out of it. Wendy's gift is understanding that the struggles we all create are not the result of who we are, rather how much we've let others tell us who we should be. She is so skilled at asking just the right questions! It was important for me to discover the answers on my own and Wendy let me do that. She helped me realize that the answers are all within me and she guided me to find them.
~Candi
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~Kristi Jones, CEO Vinforia
Everyone needs a Wendy Kranz. Wendy has been my coach for over five years now. She has been my lifeboat at times when I didn't see a viable path to shore. Wendy reminds me that all feelings are true, but questioning our thoughts behind our feelings can change our lives in magnificent ways. I'm constantly evolving and Wendy is always there to guide me through when I feel stuck.
~H. Sheldon
Wendy Kranz is a fantastic listener and maintained an excellent history of the issues and challenges we discussed. She was prompt, responsive and gave me a unique perspective and insight to my personal situations that I had not even considered. She was able to coach me through difficult relationship issues from a perspective that enabled me and my girlfriend to have calm, collected and successful discussions about our relationship.
~A.J., Executive Recruiter
Wendy Kranz instills self-sufficiency. She gets to know what is important for me, sets my compass and provides tools of how to check in with it. When I am confronted with challenges or big decisions, I know how to conduct self-diagnosis. I have clarity on how I should proceed according to what is important to me and the big picture.
~Lisa, Director of Sales
Before coaching, I was paralyzed by depression and fear. I felt like I was dying emotionally. Now I feel that I am growing and moving forward. I am happy – I feel safe. I am able to pass Wendy’s guidance and wisdom on to my two daughters and I feel that my improved life is the best example I can set for them.
~L.M., Senior Manager
I am grateful for the help and guidance Wendy Kranz provided in navigating my career path. The help Wendy has given me through her empathetic listening, her ability to keep me on track, and, at times, her tough love have truly guided me towards the life I know I deserve to have.
~Melisa, Design Director
Wendy has the ability to ask amazing, thought-provoking questions that enable a person to get clear on issues great and small. I would highly recommend Wendy Kranz as a life coach. She will get you where your heart’s desire is leading you.
~Janice Supplee
Just when I thought I couldn’t live through one more day, Wendy Kranz puts it all in a sentence, culls it all down to a manageable portion and gets me to the next level. Before I know it, my life is moving forward.
~R.Z.
Wendy Kranz has helped me through many issues: infertility, raising a challenging child, marital difficulties and divorce, legal problems, and work issues to name a few. She has guided me and helped to “heal” me time and time again.
~Lynn, Office Manager
Her reassuring demeanor and suggestions of “tools I can put in my tool box” are priceless. Wendy Kranz is a natural coach who lives her life the way she advises her clients. She is a breath of fresh air who offers kindness and knowledge with every meeting.
~S.R., Consumer Relations Manager